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Arriving to Vancouver

Flying to Canada for the first time, to Vancouver more precisely, was a different experience for each of us (and I mean a small family of three: myself, my husband, and our son). It happened over 10 years ago. To our son, whose age was still counted in months at the time, this sure was just one of those trips mom drags him on. Being used to be on the go from day one, he didn’t really get all the fuss and so this time around was no different. To me, honestly, there was lots of trying to enjoy it, as much as a young mother could. I’ve been only minimally involved in the planning of the trip and there were simply too many things I didn’t know. Plus, I didn’t really speak English at the time. That loaded statement “you’re changing your life forever” flew by my ears and I don’t recall it. But there was this very sad picture of our parents saying good-bye at the airport in Timisoara, Romania. At the time I didn’t realize how sad their faces were. Even though we were moving to Vancouver from Munich (Germany) we decided to take three weeks off and we went to spend some time with our parents before flying away.

So let’s go back to arriving here. Well, to my husband, this whole trip was a whole different story. As he was watching over the Rockies from his window seat (and it was a beautiful sunny day) I noticed how he was barely breathing. I remember feeling somehow annoyed. He was living a dream, I was too preoccupied with our little son to even get a sense of how big this step was for us. First day of May. I didn’t understand much at the time, even though I thought I did. The plan was to move to Canada, so we were moving. All the invisible wheels turning behind this gigantic mechanism were not my troubles I thought. And that’s how my life has changed. Forever.

A friend was very kind and picked us up at YVR. I remember how different my first impression was. Things seemed small. With heavy eyes I was watching out of the van’s windows at what I thought was really ugly architecture. Of course, I didn’t know it’s impossible to see anything pretty on your way from the airport. Then we arrived at their condo in North Vancouver and I fell in love with the Lion’s Gate bridge view from their balcony. I remember sitting there with a glass of wine starring at it the whole evening. We were so lucky to have such gracious hosts!

Two days later, back on the go, we moved our luggage into a rented car and embarked on a two weeks’ road-trip around British Columbia – our very first Canadian journey. The plan was to stop for the first night at a hidden in the forest cottage on Sheridan Lake, then stay a couple of days in Prince George (as I had to visit UNBC), drive on Yellowhead towards Jasper and the national park with the same name, stop for three days in Edmonton, then Calgary, then stop in Banff for a couple of days. We drove north on the Ice Fields Parkway towards Mt. Athabasca, did some hiking, and came back to Lake Louise (which I fell in love with, forever). On our way back to Vancouver we stopped at Yoho National Park, then spend a night in Revelstoke, and Kelowna was our last stop before returning to North Vancouver. I still remember pretty well many of the amazing Bed & Breakfast locations we stayed at throughout this trip. They have added that local flavor to the evening tea or to our breakfast time, allowing us to engage with our hosts and to learn about the local culture. I recall wondering at the time what was so particular about the Canadian culture. Why do people have so much fun saying ‘eh?’ at the end of pretty much every question? But it’s true, this trip helped us see how huge, how beautiful, and also how delicate British Columbia, our new home, is. Even though I didn’t provide much insight here about our each stay, especially in Prince George, I hope to come back here someday and write more about our first road-trip in Canada.

When in Rome, do as the Romans

The need to talk about the BC Professional Immigrant Conference that happened this past Saturday at Hilton Vancouver Metrotown is quite high and I’m only hoping you’ve been part of that wonderful audience of over 500. New Vancouverites – professionals trained all over the world – have attended to learn about career development, succeeding in a new country, and simply network. If in theory it’s quite simple – When in Rome, do as the Romans – practice proved us differently. To me, this event was great on a few different levels: I’ve reconnected with some old friends and some of my colleagues I haven’t seen since the Career Development Conference last year, met a few of my former clients from Richmond (I was so happy to learn about their success stories and even happier they came to see me!), made a few new connections, and I was able to present on such a dynamic topic as Social Media and Personal Branding. Very well spent time, both as a participant and as a presenter. IMG_0268As a participant, I was dazed to personally meet and talk to Lionel Laroche, the keynote speaker at this event and the author of (among others) Managing Cultural Diversity in Technical Professions. He addressed an audience of over 500 participants on the topic of Succeeding in Canada. Laroche emphasized many of the points we bring up during our counselling sessions at Skills Connect, yet wrapped in such great stories that the audience – myself included – has moved from smiling, to laughing, and to all kind of other noises specific to a suddenly surprised crowd. The learning curve an immigrant expects to go through when s/he arrives to Canada is somewhere from 6 to 12 months, but in reality, as per Lionel’s discourse, this can go up to around 6 to 7 years or more. Once those numbers uttered, I looked around me and I could sense a heavy and silent shock, some heads moved slowly from left to right and back, some sighed heavily, some chins dropped down. As someone who’s been here long enough, I could see Lionel’s point very clearly, but this is a hard to accept reality. On the bright side though, as a career advisor, I must say I have witnessed quite a few meaningful success stories of newcomers who have managed to settle in a good role in less than a year. Not too many, however. And no matter how fine that position was, it was still at a level that was much lower when comparing to the work they did before moving to Canada. In a charmingly plain graphic representation, Laroche illustrated how, along this learning and acclimatization curve, some factors proved to be more important than others. Among the central ones we find, again, those language and soft skills. As a newcomer, as soon as you manage to tune your soft skills up, align to the standards of your new home, and develop your communication skills, you’re good to go. Many come to settle in Canada with really high technical skills. When they fail at fining professional work, their first attempt to fix this situation is to go back to school and take those technical skills one step higher. This is unfortunate. Bringing up an inspiring story about his own start in Canada, Laroche emphasized how the soft skills (not the technical ones) truly are the first item newcomers should tackle and improve. I really enjoyed listening to this stimulating keynote presentation and it is my hope that all the participants have left the venue with precious information in their pockets. If what you have learned has both inspired and moved you, don’t sleep on it for too long: get started, you’re the master of your own future. If you have questions that concern you, then seek professional advice and try to move on, make a plan, follow it. Time does not forgive. I’d like to wrap-up my note about this event with a quote from the American author Wayne Dyer: Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal, live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone.

by Magdalena Mot